What to do when you have to live, but there is no strength?

It is important to know if the thought “I have no strength to live further” has appeared, which means that there is a problem. If this idea becomes regular, it returns again and again, you should seriously think about help.

I repeat: if you constantly think about where to find the strength to live, you must find a psychotherapist , to talk this problem.

Why do we lose the strength to live?

Where does this thought come from? Why do we at some point feel total helplessness and weakness?

As a rule, the main reason is an unexpected “strong psychological blow”. Thoughts about meaninglessness and hopelessness are visited by those who have suffered a heavy loss: the loss of a loved one, social status, a large amount, work or health. At this moment, lonely people are in a special risk zone, it is more difficult for them to answer why and for what reason to live on.

When with you bereavement occurs know you are adapting. That's the way the human psyche works. The darkest time of the day is before the dawn! Especially hard the first six months, then a person is able to return to normal life.

What to do when grief happened?

The very first solution: you need to create a support system for yourself in order to survive the experience of belonging. Such associations are self-help groups. The earliest were created in 1935.

It is proved that if a person communicates with people with similar problems, he is much easier to cope with his misfortune. The community gives the opportunity to communicate, exchange experiences, gives birth to faith. People see that they are not alone.

It will not be superfluous for a person to find out that there are people around him with the same losses, and despite this they continue to live on. Also in groups, isolation and being alone with the problem are excluded.

It is noteworthy that among suicides only 24% communicated with many people, 60% with a few, and 16% were absolutely lonely. Such statistics speaks in favor of the fact that the ability to develop social contacts plays a key role in deciding how to live further if there is no strength.

Where to look for support?

If you decide to find thematic forums on the Internet, be careful: in online reality, people are tougher than in life.

Virtual space leads to irresponsibility. Once they wrote a rude message to me, when I politely asked to take the words back, the person answered: “And who are you to me? Only a picture on the Internet. Therefore, be careful to yourself.

A good help can be a helpline. Don't be shy about it. The sympathy of a stranger will prevent misfortune, enrich sanity, and allow you to see with a sober look another solution.

Remember: sharing your pain with someone is always better than thinking “I can do it, I'm strong.” And then survive, not live.

In principle, to help a person, it is not necessary to have a diploma, sometimes ordinary compassion is sufficient.

What else will help find the strength to live on?

Often helps the age-old wisdom of books and deep faith in something. In search of answers to the question of how to find the strength to live on, all means that bring comfort are good.

Do what you love, for example, creativity, hobbies, travel.
If there is none, you need to try to find it!

May save the "ministry." Start helping others. For example, volunteer organizations will distract from their own problems. You realize that “someone else is worse,” or you will find the meaning of life in helping others.

Probably for all there are different tools. You must find your means.

What if there is no opportunity to contact a psychotherapist?

When it is not possible to see a specialist, find a mentor. For example, a woman who ate a pound of salt in this matter. Ask her for help, let her lead you for a while. Let it be not a girlfriend, but a person whose opinion is authoritative for you, like the opinion of a beloved teacher.

Admit that you will not understand yourself and you need a person to whom you are not indifferent. Understand that your head is now dangerous, as the most unfavorable district in the city, and you cannot walk on it alone. The main thing is to be ready to change and listen to the advice.

An analysis of the vast amount of data collected by suicidologists suggests that indifference of others is often the cause of suicide. Do not do irreversible things.

Many discussions about the problem of suicide contain almost contemptuous remarks that "people simply try to attract attention to themselves in this way." Indeed: 85 to 90% of suicide attempts fail, with four times more women than men among the survivors. But doesn’t the fact that man has to draw attention to himself in this way does not deserve sympathy?

People should be kinder to each other, especially since it is usually not expensive. Say a sympathetic word and abandon the caustic - what could be easier?

Be careful of yourself and others, be able to hear yourself. If you feel that there is no strength, be sure to look for support.

With love, Julia Baranova,
Lecturer at the Academy of Private Life.

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